I agree, I sympathize more with the boyfriend than with the author.
Dating in your mid 30s (which the author is) is very different from your teens or 20s. When people are younger they aren't necessarily thinking too hard about what-ifs. Young people tend to have a lot less baggage, and are usually naive about what baggage means anyway. So a 20-something man might be quite willing to overlook something like a history of an eating disorder. A man in his 30s has likely experienced similar red flags in other partners and might be more wary. It really doesn't shock me that someone would use ChatGPT to work out those concerns, and I don't necessarily think that he would have been a bad long term partner - had the author not stumbled on his chat logs.
Also I want to add that the eating disorder background adds a lot of context to the author's temperament and reaction to the situation. There is a certain amount of self-loathing and obsession with control that comes with the territory of an eating disorder, and her response reflects that of someone who has not healed that part of herself.
No heros here
This post is kind of tragic and just hard to read. It’s mostly about an invasion of privacy, followed by the fallout and a (probably) bad decision to try to continue the relationship anyway.
I’m not really sure what to take away from this, other than it’s probably a bad idea to read someone’s private journal, which is basically how the partner was using ChatGPT.
At least the partner kept those thoughts somewhat private instead of posting them publicly on the internet. The description of the partner’s response to the author’s reaction seemed needlessly detailed to repay the humiliation she felt reading the chat history and to provide some justification for why she decided to continue the relationship against her better judgment.